Sharing is Caring

It can be so challenging when children are suddenly asked to share, especially if they are an only child and not use to sharing with siblings.

A time when it is also challenging is when friends enter your home and your child does not want to share his toys.

Safe Keeping

It is an idea to make your child aware of when they are having guests they may want to put their favourite toys away in a safe place. Continue to explain that our friends can play with our other toys and that we are not to worry because they shall not be taking them home.

If we share we may be invited to their house next week!

Getting Their Own Way

We all love having our own way, imagine life without compromise. Rules on your terms, how simple things would be.

Life isn't this way and there is no point in letting your child think that they can always have everything they want.


Rather than saying 'No' or 'You can't do that, have that.' It may be easier to say 'Yes we can do that but not until tomorrow.' or 'How about we write that on our calendar to do next week.'

When you respond with a positive it can easily avoid that tantrum.

Quick Smart

We have all heard ourselves saying 'Come on, hurry up, we are going to be late!'

The quick way is not always the smart way. It can lead to unnecessary stress and when your child sees this he may just mirror your the form of a tantrum.

Half Speed

In general we can say that any task we carry out with a child is done at 'half speed'. Therefore you are likely to need double the time. Especially when walking...their legs are half the length of yours!

So just allow time and carry a book or a tube of bubbles in your handbag so that if you arrive early you have an activity to occupy your child.

Being Misunderstood

It must be so frustrating when you are trying to communicate and someone doesn't understand.

I remember a trip to France when I thought I ordered beef for my main meal and pork arrived!

Take a Deep Breath

I often ask children to take a deep breath and blow as hard as they can when feeling frustrated. I then ask if they can show me what they want. If this is still proving challenging I advise gradually changing the subject to something you know will easily distract your child.

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